Several weeks ago a blogging friend, Keith,
asked a thought-provoking question:
"What do you see when you look in the mirror?"
The question prompted some fascinating responses,
and I've been thinking about it a lot since I read the post.
I wrote a quick response;
because, as usual,
I was chasing my tail:
"I see someone who makes me smile."
I've been working on mirror talk.
I read years ago,
maybe in Cosmopolitan,
that females of all ages
look at themselves in the mirror
with harsh eyes.
They go straight to the feature or features
they dislike the most.
For me, it was always about the ears.
when I was little.
My ears stuck out;
they still do.
< Me at 10, shortly before heading North
to Lansdowne House, Ontario
|Donnie, Roy, and I|
Atholville, New Brunswick, 1956
My parents nicknamed me
I heard everything.
But I was confused ~
Dad told me stories
about how his mother
had taped his ears
to his head
when he was little,
so they wouldn't stick out so much.
I looked in the mirror
and wished differently,
those big ears
against my head.
I secretly tried Scotch tape.
Well that worked really well!
I can laugh now.
The article suggested smiling at yourself in the mirror
and focusing on what you liked about yourself.
I tried, I really did!
hit the big screen
in Lord of the Rings
that I truly made peace
with my big ears.
< Source: Wikia
I did make myself look
at my sparkly eyes and big smile.
And I'd tell myself
my eyes and smile were beautiful
(even if I had Dumbo ears).
So when I read Keith's post
I got a wild hair
and started snapping photos
in my bathroom mirror.
Have you tried it?
It isn't easy!
But I kept snapping away
because I was going to do a post
on looking in the mirror.
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
I see many things.
But most importantly, I see
someone who makes me smile.
I have what I wanted more than anything else ~
Someone who loves me and accepts me
for exactly who I am, big ears and all.
Since reading Keith's post,
I've come across a number of things
about mirror talk.
In AARP's April 2014 magazine,
Barbara Walters tells an anecdote
about her friend Kitty Carlisle Hart.
Kitty looks in the mirror
before going to bed and says,
"Kitty, I forgive you."
Source: AARP The Magazine, p.77
That was powerful to read.
Now I look in the mirror and say,
"Louise, I forgive you."
Silly mistakes or profound,
it's very healing.
As I struggle with writing a memoir,
I learning to forgive myself
by talking to my mirror.
Barb, Me, Bertie, Roy, and Donnie
Fish House, Lac Seul, 1961
Maya Angelou said:
“I don't know if I continue,
even today, always liking myself.
But what I learned to do many years ago
was to forgive myself.
It is very important for every human being
to forgive herself or himself
because if you live,
you will make mistakes -
it is inevitable.
|Maya Angelou: Source ~ Wikimedia|
But once you do
and you see the mistake,
then you forgive yourself
if I'd known better
I'd have done better,'
So you say to people
who you think you may have injured,
and then you say to yourself,
If we all hold on to the mistake,
we can't see our own glory in the mirror
because we have the mistake
between our faces and the mirror;
we can't see what we're capable of being.
You can ask forgiveness of others,
but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self."
Words to take to heart
when you look in the mirror.
See the note in the mirror?
I was so busy taking my picture
that I was late for lunch
(looked right through the note).
Oh, and that email I needed to send
to my cousin Claire?
to my cousin Claire?
From Big Ears
to Broken Hearts,
I'm doing a lot of self talk and forgiveness
when I look in the mirror!
Source: You Tube ~ quebecfoxtrot
If you'd like to see Keith's post,here's a link to his blog
Musings of an Unapologetic Dreamer.